Edit: So I wrote this last night and my Internet went out.
Right now I should be sleeping or studying, or even catching up on my e-mails, but instead I am sitting here and watching Once Upon a Time. So while I wait to see what happens next, I thought I would write here since it feels like it has been a million years since my last post.
I actually had started to write here a few times over the past couple of weeks, but every time I start on something it ends up unfinished. Then when I go back and re-read or think back on it, I decide that I should write about something else or start over with a fresh post. So here I am, writing, erasing, re-writing the exact same sentence that I erased because I decided it was not so bad, and thinking about what I should or should not mention (yes, I mean politics). Which the Mount Everest-sized headache that is currently occupying itself right now really is not helping with my indecisiveness. So instead of going back and forth I am just going to get on with it before another month goes by.
If you follow me on Twitter or ever see my feed on the sidebar here, then you very well know how I feel about the results of the election. I don’t want to get all political here. I really don’t. I want this to be like a safe place away from political discussions (that almost always turns to arguments), but I also want this to be a place where I can speak my mind and give my honest opinion and thoughts. So at the risk of potentially receiving backlash or hateful comments, I want to be open about this past election for a moment and say that the results devastated me. It was not about who won or lost; winning and losing is not what the election is about. It is the details that make the big picture, not just the picture itself.
I can admit that neither candidate was perfect. Hell, when all this started Bernie was the one I was really wanting to win the Democratic nomination. I even got a “Feel the Bern” bumper sticker even though I do not yet have a car to place it on (I also got a “Gas, Grass, or Ass” bumper sticker too just for the hell of it). But back to the point – although neither candidate was perfect, those were the candidates we were left with. And yes, I know that there were other options but in the end I think we all knew that those other options had no realistic chance. And while Hillary won the popular vote, Trump won the electoral college and thus won the election.
So here we are now with Trump as the president-elect. And while some people are happy about this or don’t really care, many of us are fearful for what comes ahead. Many of us are in some sort of minority group – or we know someone who is – and we are fearful for our own well-beings and that of those around us. This fear is not without reason. But instead of shedding another tear or badmouthing anyone for not voting or voting differently than I (as it is their right to do so), I want to spread love and happiness to those who need it most. With so much hate in the world – that has been around long before this election – I believe the most important thing for us to do is stand together and spread positive vibes.
We should be there for one another; for our women, for our POC, for people with a different or no religion, for those who are disabled, for our LGBTQ+, for our middle and lower classes, for each other. This does not mean we do not have a fight: our fight is for a better, kinder, and equal tomorrow. Our fight is one that we must stand together in order to accomplish our goals. And even though we are (and, truthfully, have always been) fighting for our rights and equality, we must remember to remain level-headed and to not stoop to pettiness and violence. Instead of looking for a way to destroy someone’s day, we should look for a way to help out those who need it most.
As for me, I have decided to spend Christmas morning giving toys out to inpatient children and teens at one of my local hospitals and Christmas evening bringing cookies and reading stories to residents at one of my local nursing homes. I know that it isn’t much, but even the smallest of gestures – like paying-it-forward at restaurants/stores or donating spare change to charities that are inclusive, and yes, even peacefully protesting – can have a lot of impact.
Process today, fight tomorrow.
And that concludes the political portion of this post. While I would normally apologize vigorously for possibly offending people, I feel like there is nothing to be offended about what I had to say. But I do know that some of us are tired of reading about politics, so onward I go with this post.
Thanksgiving was a little while ago, but for me it still feels like Thanksgiving was only a two or three days ago. Which is ironic considering it did not even feel like Thanksgiving on or around the actual day. Not that I really care though; I actually dislike Thanksgiving for several reasons. I feel like people shouldn’t just wait until two days a year to visit family, and I feel like we should be thankful for what we have every day (and not just put a ton of emphasis on what we are thankful for on just one day). Don’t get me wrong – I loved Thanksgiving as a kid. But as I grew up, my love for it was diminished as I started to pay more attention to what was going on. And all of this is nothing compared to how greatly the Native American culture is appropriated and how washed down the story of the first Thanksgiving is. I am thankful for a lot of things, but not for that.
And that’s all I can think of for now. I promise to post more actively and write about more interesting topics next time that doesn’t sound like I am trying to give some sort of speech or be the Grinch of Thanksgiving.